I think these two things are kind of related to each other when it comes to women. It seems to be the two issues that are constant in our lives, from beginning to end. We are consumed with it our whole life. Not to say we are superficial, because we really aren’t. When we disappoint ourselves in both of these departments, we waste a lot of time, sometimes months, even years, feeling low on hope and confidence. Are we cursed by our genetic makeup? Or is it a learnt thing? How can we overcome this? There really is so much more we could spend our precious time, energy and mind power on.