People who thrive on diminishing others

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There are people among us who thrive on diminishing others.  You find them everywhere, at work, in the family, masquerading as friends, romantic partners …  they have for whatever combination of life circumstances, developed this modus operandi of subtly but effectively belittling others.  And why they mostly get away with it is because the rest of (unsuspecting) us have been raised to respect the feelings and boundaries of others, to be kind, and give others a chance before we give ourselves a chance.

What I have learnt is they cannot make me feel ashamed of my expectations.  They cannot make me ashamed of my feelings.  They cannot make me ashamed of my passion.  They cannot force their beliefs on me.   They cannot discredit my opinions.  They cannot make me do anything I don’t want to do.  Their opinion about me is not important.  They cannot make me feel small.  I don’t allow them that power over me anymore.

The meaning of life

Is Life.

You understand it with every choice you make, with every joy and sadness, with every great mistake, loss, success and achievement.  Every mistake, every loss is more than it seems to be.  It is a lesson.  You feel it inside yourself.  And it needs validation from nobody else, only youmeaningoflife.

Making music

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There’s nothing more amazing than feeling the reward of lots and lots of practice. When your fingers feel at home with the vibrations of the strings beneath them, moving effortlessly around the neck. When the words and notes you sing detach from the rythms and timings of your fingers and dance harmoniously around what they’re playing. Nothing more rewarding than that. Testimony to the depth of unity that can be reached between mind, body, and soul.